Just over two weeks ago I was invited by a Finnish MVP to a meeting of the people (mostly Finnish MVPs) who are behind a new Finnish technical web site. The meeting was going to be held several hours drive away so I didn't much fancy going, but I said that provided I could be there for a maximum of four hours that I could go. (The four hours being the time my wife would be happy in the neighbouring town)
I got no response from that e-mail so several days later I asked again and was told that he was still waiting for a reply from someone else.
Even more days later and now in the week preceding that Saturday meeting, I was invited by Microsoft to a meeting of Finnish MVPs (and thus including the same people) and this time it was close to Helsinki and transport to the location was provided. So I sent a message saying in view of this new meeting (which was less than a week later) was the original Saturday meeting now cancelled?
I got a reply to this saying that he was still waiting for that one person's confirmation so I replied saying that there didn't seem much point in travelling so far when we were all going to be at the other meeting a few days later.
I then waited and waited. Saturday came and went and there was no response (and needless to say with no message giving me a *time* to attend that meeting or even whether it was still on, I didn't drive for several hours to get there).
Now for the subject of this blog item.
Forget for a moment that I didn't receive a reply to my first message in this entire thread of messages and needed to prompt the original sender, because that is typically Finnish (= roughly "don't say anything if you have nothing to say" or in other words don't expect any confirmation of the receipt of a message you send to a Finn), and concentrate on that last exchange of messages.
To my mind I was making a comment "there doesn't seem any point" to which I was expecting a response on the lines of "there won't be enough time at the second meeting to dicuss this" or "it's a different group fo people" or in fact anything.
According to my wife (a Finn) however when I said to her that I didn't understand why I hadn't heard anything back on this, I was saying "I'm not coming. I don't see the point."
So you see how one person's "give me a reason why I should come" is another person's (or in fact it seems an entire nation's) "I'm not coming" (which of course in Finland gets no response either - see first comment)